YOU LOVE YOU OR YOU LOVE YOU NOT? (How you can answer without picking the petals off a daisy)

Time ago a person told me that she felt alone and that she was tired of eating a toast sitting on the sofa alone in the evening after a day of work, she wanted to get home and find a partner and end the day not in solitude, for her the situation has changed in the realisation of her desires, but I quote this fact to help those who are in the same or a similar situation.

If you ask yourselves the right questions, you can get the right answers. You live what you live because of who you are, so the question you should ask yourselves in a case like that is whether you deserve such a poor treatment directly from yourselves! 

If you find yourselves in such a case you should start reflecting on the amount of value, of care and of appreciation that you give yourselves, pondering whether you are so of little value to yourselves that you don't have the pleasure of setting the table well for yourselves, of not having the pleasure in preparing and enjoying a succulent dinner after your day of work (implicitly not even appreciating yourselves for that), not having the pleasure in enjoying your presence as sacred (because it is!), all gestures with which you confess that that is what you are and indeed that is what you can experience because your actions can only be the reflection of your being.

A state of being is infallible, if you get into the habit of being and feeling miserable, your life automatically becomes miserable but if you raise the concept of yourselves then the situation around you rises.

It is not common use to teach a child to love himself, to value himself, to appreciate himself and to treat himself accordingly because that is considered selfishness, instead it is the greatest gift that you can give him because the concept of Self is fundamental for every person projects into the world the concept he/she has of him/herself and that inner state acts as a lens of interpretation of the outside determining everything in his/her life: from character, to habits, to decisions, to results. 

You in adulthood can remedy a situation of that kind, even if you have been taught not to do it you can take your life in your hands and begin to treat yourselves with love as deserving, capable, precious and useful, giving yourselves the treatment you would like to receive from others in every area and you can do it by starting from the small habits that you easily underestimate as that person in the example did when she relegated herself to a sofa with a toast for dinner just because she didn't have a partner at that moment, a gesture that shows that she had placed her self-love, her own value in the hands of whom not even existed at that point in her life, that is, upon the lack of something, upon the void, and that denotes the role that the person gave herself.

Start with the Self!

That's the starting point to realise the rest because it is the source from which everything comes, the Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End. Start with the Self! Give yourselves that goal and put it into practice by learning to love yourselves and treat yourselves as the most important person in your life because you are, every day is the right time to do it, now is always the right time.

The implications? 

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“Love thine own soul, and comfort thy heart, remove sorrow far from thee: for sorrow hath killed many, and there is no profit therein.”

(Ecclesiasticus 30:23 KJV)